It’s important to know the names and titles of people around you, and whom you might associate with. Don’t assume that you can use the same titles that other people use for them, since many titles are based on what relationship you have with the person, such as if they are older or younger than you as well as if their relation to you comes from the paternal or maternal line. Similarly, observe how strangers are addressed in your area. What terms do people use to call waiters and waitresses, or sales staff? Is the term the same for women and men? Some positions such as teachers or bosses require further respect – note again how these people are addressed.

Note how people react to you when you offer them help or advice. Make sure to use the same approach when others offer you help. Chinese is all about giving respect and thanks where it is due. In many cases, this is much more so than seen out West. So if you notice people overdoing it in terms of flattering you or thanking you, consider it expected for you to return the same attention when it is your turn.